Fertility is so public, but infertility is so private, so intimate.
Issues around our fertility are intimately linked to the essence of our human natures, our sense of womanhood or manhood. This is perhaps why it is so difficult to discuss it with others, to share our pain, our anxiety, our hopes, dreams and disappointments.
Our culture offers so many rituals and ceremonies to celebrate and commemorate pregnancy, birth, and parenthood, but when it comes to the milestones of infertility….nothing.
A couple who experiences miscarriage or still birth is often denied the opportunity to grief their loss. They are often encouraged to just move on. There is no funeral, no mourning, no symbol of their sorrow. (to read more)
The couple who faces these challenges is in need of a way to share with their friends and family. How wonderful it would be to have a ceremony where they could share their loss, lay their dreams to rest, and move into the next phase of life with the support of their loved ones. And what of the couple who finally becomes pregnant after infertility treatment? Only ceremony can contain that much joy and anticipation and trepidation!
I worked in the field of Reproductive Endocrinology for many years. I know and understand the issues surrounding infertility both professionally and personally as I, myself, am infertile. I am intimately aware of the cycle of hope and sorrow.
I would be honored to develop rituals and ceremonies for all the many milestones and cycles of this process. A private ritual for you and your partner could help make those timed intimacies special and sacred. We could break new ground together and write a ceremony that involves your friends and family in your pursuit for fertility or your decision to live childless.